Relationships with siblings are so unique. They’ve known you since birth. They know the things you like, the things that drive you crazy, and they’re happy to give you a healthy dose of each.
Siblings are never too old to get in an argument over nothing. But what makes this relationship so incredible is that they are quick to let it go. When my friends tell me about fights they’ve had with their siblings, I always ask how it was resolved. And I can usually accurately predict that the answer will be, “we just dropped it and never talked about it again.” That’s how conflicts are handled in my family – no matter what the argument is about, you just have to wait five minutes and everything will be back to normal.
I’m the oldest of four kids. If you believe the science of birth order, that would tell you all sorts of things about me, like I’m a perfectionist, overly responsible, and achievement driven (none of it true, I tell ya). But for me, being the oldest means that I’ve always felt this responsibility to take care of my sisters and brother. They haven’t always asked for or wanted my help, but as the mini mom, I’ve felt obliged to give it anyway. As we get older, our relationships with each other evolve. I would say I’m closer to each one of them now than ever before, even though we don’t live near each other.
But siblings are the easiest ones to push to the back burner when life gets busy. You can do it, because they aren’t going anywhere. And even if they get mad about it, they’ll get over it in five minutes (they always do).
A lesson I’ve learned in the last year is that more time with each other is not guaranteed. If you’re putting off talking to your sister or brother because you’ve got a hundred things to do today, then do ninety-nine of them and spend five minutes connecting. Send a text or Facebook message, start with “remember when,” and take a trip down memory lane together. Share something funny, like the video below. I even included a quick link for you to copy and paste. It doesn’t matter what you talk about, the important thing is to let them know you’re thinking about them.
And here’s the link if you want to share: https://youtu.be/FihCxmQiIqw